It can be hard to connect with your partner sometimes.
Whether you are busy at work, tired from a long day, or just not feeling very talkative, it can be easy to let communication slip into surface topics that only skim the tip of what's really going on.
A simple way to connect more deeply with your partner is to give your partner your undivided attention. This lets your partner know they are important to you and helps your partner feel valued and loved.
Giving your partner your undivided attention lets your partner know they are important to you and helps your partner feel valued and loved.
In today's relationship tip, you will learn five simple ways to give your partner your undivided attention.
Tip 1: Make eye contact with your partner
Make eye contact with your partner. Look your partner in the eyes and really see them.
Notice when your partner is speaking to you, what they are wearing, how their hair looks. Notice their face, eyes and smile. Connect with your partner through your eyes.
Making eye contact lets your partner know that you are listening to them and care about what they have to say.
Making eye contact lets your partner know that you are listening to them and care about what they have to say.
Tip 2: Use minimal encouragers
Minimal encouragers are subtle statements or non-verbal cues that encourage your partner to continue talking.
Examples of minimal encouragers include phrases such as "uh-huh," "mmhm," or "I see."
Actions such as nodding your head or leaning towards your partner also show that you are interested in what they have to say.
While minimal encouragers are great for letting your partner know you are listening to them while encouraging them to keep talking.
While minimal encouragers are great for letting your partner know you are listening to them while encouraging them to keep talking.
Tip 3: Practice active listening to your partner
Active listening is paying full attention to your partner while they are speaking.
Some common active listening skills include:
-asking your partner open questions
-summarising the main points of what your partner has told you to back to them, and
-empathising with your partner.
Actively listening will not only help you understand what your partner has to say, but also the feelings "beneath the surface" of what your partner is saying.
Actively listening will not only help you understand what your partner has to say, but also the feelings "beneath the surface" of what your partner is saying.
Tip 4: Remove distractions from your environment
If you are distracted by your laptop, phone, or the television when chatting with your partner, you send your partner the message that what they have to say is not as important as those distractions.
To avoid this, remove any distractions from the environment when you are talking with your partner. You can do this by turning off the television, shutting down your laptop and putting your phone on silent.
When you remove distractions from your environment, the quality of the conversation between you and your partner will improve immensely!
When you remove distractions from your environment, the quality of the conversation between you and your partner will improve immensely!
Tip 5: Let your partner speak without interruption
When your partner is speaking, don't stop them.
Letting your partner speak without interruption tells your partner that you respect what your partner has to say.
Letting your partner speak without interruption tells your partner that you respect what your partner has to say.
If you feel like there is something important that you need to say, wait until your partner has finished speaking before saying anything.
This will help you avoid cutting your partner off mid-conversation, which communicates that what your partner has to say is unimportant or unvalued.
Conclusion:
In today's relationship tip, you have learned five ways to give your partner your undivided attention.
By giving your partner your full attention, you show your partner that they are important to you. This will enhance your relationship with your partner and make you both feel connected and valued.
That's all for today's tip!
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I look forward to helping you create a happy, loving and passionate relationship!
