Do you and your partner argue?
If so, how do you act during these arguments?
Do you shout or scream at your partner? Or perhaps you put your partner down or call them names?
While arguments are a normal part of any relationship, it is a serious problem if your anger gets out of control during these arguments.
While arguments are a normal part of any relationship, it is a serious problem if your anger gets out of control during these arguments.
In today's relationship tip, you will learn a simple tool to help you recognize when your anger is getting out of control. This tool is called noticing your Early Warning Signs of Anger.
So, what are your Early Warning Signs of Anger?
Early Warning Signs of Anger
Your Early Warning Signs of Anger are any signs that indicate you are becoming tense, frustrated or angry during an argument.
Noticing your Early Warning Signs during arguments is the first step to controlling the level of conflict and creating a happy, healthy and loving relationship.
Noticing your Early Warning Signs during arguments is the first step to controlling the level of conflict and creating a happy, healthy and loving relationship.
Although people experience different Early Warning Signs of Anger, there are main four main categories of Early Warning Signs.
These are:
- Physical (Body) Sensations
- Actions
- Thoughts, and
- Feelings
Let's look at each of these categories in more detail.
Physical (Body) Sensations:
Common physical Early Warning Signs of Anger include:
- feeling hot
- feeling tension in your chest
- feeling tension in your shoulders
- your stomach feeling "queasy"
- feeling tension in your jaw
Becoming aware of these physical Early Warning Signs of anger is vital to recognizing that you becoming tense, frustrated or angry during an argument.
This awareness is the first step in learning to control your anger.
Actions:
The next category of Early Warning Signs of anger are actions.
Most people act differently as they are getting tense, frustrated or angry.
Common action Early Warning Signs of anger include:
- raising your voice
- swearing
- staring at someone
- banging objects
- driving faster (if in a car, or
- going quiet
As with physical Early Warning Signs of anger, becoming aware of your action Early Warning Signs of anger is crucial in recognizing when you become tense, frustrated or angry.
Thoughts:
The third category of Early Warning Signs of anger are thoughts.
Most people's thinking changes as they get tense, frustrated or angry.
Common thought Early Warning Signs of anger include thoughts such as:
- why is this happening to me?
- how can he (or she) be so stupid?
- I don't believe this!
- this isn't fair, or
- I am right, you are wrong!
As with your physical and action Early Warning Signs of anger, becoming aware of your thinking Early Warning Signs of anger is crucial in recognizing when you become tense, frustrated or angry.
Feelings:
The final category of Early Warning Signs of anger are feelings.
Just as your body, actions and thoughts change as you become angry, so do your feelings.
Common feeling Early Warning Signs of Anger include feelings such as:
- hurt
- disappointed
- let down
- powerless
- afraid, or
- humiliated
As with your other Early Warning Signs of anger, becoming aware of your feeling Early Warning Signs of anger is crucial in recognizing when you become tense, frustrated or angry.
Conclusion:
Noticing your Early Warning Signs of anger during arguments is crucial in managing your anger before it gets out of control.
The four categories of Early Warning Signs of anger are:
- Physical (Body) Sensations
- Actions
- Thoughts, and
- Feelings
It is important to remember that Early Warning Signs of anger are just that: Early Warning Signs.
By noticing your Early Warning Signs of anger you can manage your anger and maintain a respectful, healthy and loving relationship.
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I look forward to helping you create a happy, loving and passionate relationship!
